Being Questioned?

I try to keep my more personal life, just that personal. I do not like airing my dirty laundry out to dry. So with that being said I will try to get to my point without being too personal.

There is a few things I hate about being a parent, and that is being questioned about things I do or say.

Have you ever said no to your child only to have someone other then the other parent say “Well why can’t he/she do this/that?“. I bite my tongue most the time, but damn it not any more. When I am questioned next time I am going to be blunt and I am going to be hateful. BECAUSE I AM HER PARENT AND GUESS WHAT I SAID SO DAMN IT I DO NOT NEED AN EXCUSE OR A REASON TO SAY NO TO MY CHILD!!! Sorry I needed to get that out.

Now that I have that out. Is there any other parent/s that have the same problem? I love how its my daughter saying ok and an adult questioning me. Shouldn’t that be the other way around I know when I was a kid I was always like “but mom, why can’t I do this/that”. Some people need to know there place and stand back.

Another thing I hate about being a parent is people being negative towards my daughter. At one time I will admit I sat back I said nothing I let it go on. Why? To keep peace for my daughter. What would it do to her if I went off? It would cause unneeded tension. So I was trying to look out for my daughter in a different way. I have since learned “grew a backbone” that my daughter needed me to say something. My daughter needs me to say something more then she needs me to sit back and bite my tongue.

So from now on anyone that has anything negative to say about/to my daughter this momma is no longer going to “keep peace” and say nothing. This momma is going to stand up and say something and guess what if it causes tension so be it. I will no longer ALLOW these certain people to think my daughter is a walking mat.

About Jammie Morey

Jammie is of Native American descent, she has family from the Ojibway/Chippewa tribe in Mount Pleasant, Michigan. She was born and raised in Michigan, where she later moved to Tennessee with her husband and daughter. Jammie and her husband home school their daughter, and enjoy doing many things together as a family. Some of those activities include geocaching, hiking, fishing, playing games together as a family, and just being silly with their daughter. Jammie is Owner of The Neat Things in Life. For more information visit on Google+.


  1. Good for you! I hate when people question how I raise my little one. I usually just ignore it, or flat out tell them because I said so. I just don't feel the need to explain my choices with anyone anymore.

  2. Well here if you say because I said so. Things get heated, and ugly. And you keep getting questioned so sometimes its best to say nothing. Not no more. I'm a start getting ugly back. I see how their kids are I will be damned if they are going to question my authority.

  3. Bloggymommy says:

    I think every parent knows one or two people that thinks it's ok to say whatever pops into their minds without thinking about it first. It sucks and people need to learn to think before they open their mouths and offend someone. Good for you for standing up for your daughter.

    Stefanie from MomDot Mafia ;)

  4. I agree with you 100% these people do not think before they open their mouth. And I have a big problem with depression and anxiety and I am now getting help and there is no holding me back. I won't let my anxiety keep me from taking a stand and putting someone back in their place.

  5. Cat@3KidsandUs says:

    My parents are like that. Always undercutting my rules for my kids…the same rules they enforced with me. Gets under my skin like nothing else.

  6. I won't keep my mouth shut no more.I have literally had enough. There is a few people who read my blog who know what I am talking about. I think my husband knows I mean business as well. My dad knows not to but in. He knows his grand daughter is being raised well.

  7. In all honesty, I don't let other people get to me. Everyone has their own opinion and reason behind why they do or don't. Why not just explain to the person in a nice manner your reason(s) for why you are saying no. Maybe it would help them to see things from a different perspective. And it may even change their mind about the situation in general by helping them to see things from a different viewpoint. As for being straight forward, sure, but hateful, why? Life is about learning from others. I know I have changed my mind about many of things through conversation and by watching others and the choices they have made. Kindness really does go a long way.

    PS: I for one do think it is important to explain to a child why you are saying no or even yes in most cases. Why, because I believe it truly helps them to fully understand or see something that maybe they didn't fully understand otherwise. Plus it helps them to learn how to use critical thinking in regard to making choices for themselves. But that's just my opinion.

    Be kind, but stand strong behind your decisions. : )

  8. Trust me on this one, there is no other way. I have done so much and I am done. You are taking about the most negative person I have ever met in my 30 years. Maybe its about time someone gives them a taste of their own medicine and lets see how they like it. And my husband backs me 100% on this one.

  9. The worse is when I am saying no at the register (for candy or the little stuffed animal and balloon ) and someone trys to give me money to buy it for her. If I wanted my daughter to have eithe, I would buy it myself, thank you very much. If you don't like her crying, walk away, ignore us. Do not give me or her money and make the situation worse.

  10. I just wish people would step back. If your child is not appearing with broken bones then you must be doing alright.

  11. Mommy's Hangout says:

    Omg I know Tammy This has happen so many times I have had them after I left Buy it any ways and run after me when I am getting in the car!!!!

  12. Kim @ What's That Smell? says:

    I will correct my son for something and then one person in particular will say "that's all right, I don't mind" – WELL I DO! Ugh. I totally know what you mean.

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